DISQUS

regina · 1 year ago

Sometimes we just have to let them fall and then get back up on their own. Of course we will be needed to still love on them through the process!
Keep in mind that even after the fall they don't always learn their lesson.. It sometimes takes more than one fall... :roll:
Just keep loving & praying!

SjP · 1 year ago

Ms Marva, I know exactly how you feel. My "baby brother" was on a path to real self distruction (at best) a few years ago. It was hard on all of us. Talking to him and praying for him seemed to be falling on deaf ears. He was really in a bad way. As he hit rock bottom, my mother and I came to his rescue - as in the past - but this time it was different. He left his environment and moved in with me. He literally had no place to go. He was isolated when he moved in with me so therefore, he was able to start getting rid of his own demons. Just when he was at his lowest point, he hit a break through. He claimed it and was able to turn his life around. That was nearly 25 years ago.

I believing and praying that your brother will understand the lesson, but in learning that lesson you may be challenged once again to be there to help him threw it.

(I was wondering if I should put all this in this comment. Then I was kicked off the internet. When I got back on, the comment was still here...Divine Intervention!)

sdg1844 · 1 year ago

It's hard Marva. I've watched so many family members self destruct. They'd complain about their situation and play victim until the cows came home. However, they never looked for help or sought it out. They were content to complain and bitch their lives away.

It is extremely painful to watch essentially good people destroy their own lives by their inability to be honest with themselves. I sometimes think we fear out own short comings so much, that we don't address them.

All I can say is keep the door open for your brother if he ever reaches a point where he wants to heal and become a better person for himself.