DISQUS

Danielle · 2 years ago

Amen! It seems that during different periods in my life, I've been faced w/the same decision. I'm very particular about the people I allow close to me and many have considered me snotty and standoffish because of those standards. There was a time when that perception would've bothered me, but now it doesn't.

You are right when you discuss boundaries because people will try you. I've had to stop talking and associating w/toxic people including some members of my own family. It can be a pinful process, but necessary for my own sanity and health. LOL! Whether it's examining your own behavior and things you need to let go because they are hindering,or letting go of negative people, the work is very necessary.

Good stuff as usual Marvalus. Keep up the good work chica!

Rootzpoet · 2 years ago

I agree with you on this totally. Sometimes we just have to summon the courage to really let go of destructive things we have been cuddling for so long. I think too that sometimes we have had the destructive around us so long it almost becomes normal. But it is important to seize the power and break free.

Nuff Luv as Usual
Duane

MarvalusOne · 2 years ago

The older I get, the less patience I have...the less patience I have, the easier it becomes to set those boundaries...I've had to cut out some toxic people, members of my own family and you are right, it is painful but necessary...

Thanks, mami!

M

MarvalusOne · 2 years ago

That's right Rootz,

It is when we become comfortable that we are outside of our true selves...we are not being faithful to who we are...to what we need...

Thanks, brother, for your comment!

M

Chelle · 2 years ago

and you are allowed to take baby steps....
sometimes it's just saying no...one day @ a time until you get the hang of it
and you are so right about that tolerance thing, it seems the older I get the less of it I have. When I was younger my tolerance level was somewhere above my shoulders, ten years ago my patience had dropped around my waist, now it just sits at my ankles waiting for someone to mess up!

Danielle · 2 years ago

I here you girl! Oh and guess what I got friggin' tagged. LOL! You're up next missie. Visit my site if you don't know the rules of the game. Dang it!

MarvalusOne · 2 years ago

Chelle,

My tolerance level is at the tip of my toes, I think...meaning I have very, very little left...I'm tactful though, not mean...

Thanks for dropping by!

M

MarvalusOne · 2 years ago

Danielle,

(((giggle))) I guess I'll get prepared then...

cooper · 2 years ago

I think there is a key in there somewhere. So many people can't let go or at least not gracefully - there is much to be said for letting go.

sauerkraut · 2 years ago

I must be heading in the wrong direction because as I get older, parts of me get more patient. There are still things with which and for which I have next to no patience, but I can deal with other things better. Am I headed the wrong way?

MarvalusOne · 2 years ago

Coop...there has to be a key...somewhere...it is entirely too hard...much easier said than done...

Sauer...If you are getting more patient as you get older, I say, more power to you...if that is what works for you...as long as you are on the right path for you and you are happy...stay on it!

Peace and blessings all!

M

lynda · 2 years ago

Sure is true... You have to know when people have given you enough... I, also, have let go of friends, lovers, and relatives who were bringin me down. There is just not enough time to allow people to drag you around in their negativity, no matter what kind of negativity that is... It hurts deeply to let some of these go, but, gettin on with it, is what growing is all about... great post and glad to know that someone else is like me...

MarvalusOne · 2 years ago

Wow, this was a good subject...seems like it has touched a lot of people...I thought it was just me! (((smile)))

But on the real, in order to claim your peace, to claim your soul and spirit, letting go is essential...the negativity must go...

I'm glad to know someone is like me, Lynda...

Thanks for dropping in!

M

Lin · 2 years ago

I stumbled upon your post here and it really caught my attention. I couldn't have said it better than you've done here. It's especially difficult to let go when it's family, someone you're related to. I've found by experience that it's often necessary to cut the strings from people who do not have your best interests in mind, who are generally mean-spirited and vicious. Very good post. I gave you a thumbs up! :)

MarvalusOne · 2 years ago

Lin - welcome! And thanks for the compliment...

Experience is often the best teacher...

M