DISQUS

Conversations With Marva: In My Opinion…Our Black Men Are Dying

  • Mike · 2 years ago
    That was very moving I feel for you having to raise your son in this world. But you will do it, you are more knowledgable about the pitfalls out there than most women are. My mom did it three times while putting her self through nursing school than medical school. All the while having to deal with three hard head boys, wondering if one of us might not come home at night. We came out with all sorts of scratches and bruises but we made it. That is a testament to her. And he will be yours.

    Open Communication everything (including sex)
    Stressing of education
    Knowing who his friends are
    Surrounding him with the right role models

    You are above the average if you got those down.

    He will be fine.
  • MarvalusOne · 2 years ago
    Thanks Mike...I sometimes have to put my girlieness aside and come at my son real...he has his father in his life but he works nights and is not at hand when things come up and need to be dealt with immediately, you know? So I have to step in sometime and just be real with him...

    Luckily, we have established a real open communicative relationship where we can talk about everything. Sometimes after some of our conversations I have to go to my room and be by myself for a while to release some of that "Oh My God!" but as long as it means that I get to hold on to him...that is what I'll do...

    Thanks for the tips!

    M
  • Marcus Langford · 2 years ago
    I guess I would have to add it all up to environment and rearing. A black boy that is raised in the suburbs is less likely to be murdered by another black than if he were in the city. Also, a black boy that grows up in a stable household of two parents or even one, is less likely to go out there and murder another black man. As someone that has grown up in the country, lived in the city, and lives in the suburbs, there is a huge difference in how black boys are raised in each area.

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  • MarvalusOne · 2 years ago
    I agree...and it is one of the reasons I moved my child out of the city into the 'burbs...I don't care what people say, I want him to know what it is like to be a child...to be able to play outside and run with his friends and not (really) have to worry about looking over his shoulder...

    M
  • Vanessa · 2 years ago
    I live in Miami where it seems that murder of young black men by the police or another young black man appears to have reached epidemic status. It is so very sad because many of these young men don't realize that they have options. Even in the most dire circumstances, they have options. They also don't realize the magnificent potential they actually carry with them.

    This is such a great post, my sister.

    I will send up Blessings for your son. Peace.
  • MarvalusOne · 2 years ago
    Ms. Vanessa - I think that is the worst thing...that these young men think they don't have a choice...they have chosen the streets instead of education, survival...

    It is such a sad situation...

    Thanks for the compliment...and the blessings and prayers...

    M