No you definitely should not settle if your looking for a long term relationship. Or else you will not be happy.
Sharon
· 1 year ago
I am sighing about being 36 and alone on the constant. I love being in man arms. However, I want what I want. And I won't be happy if I settle for anything less. I guess it is better to wait for the one then to stay with anyone only to end up unhappy or back in the single life at 50.
Sighing
sdg1844
· 1 year ago
Well, well. Go Miss Marva! I have nothing to add because I totally agree. Period.
Marvalus
· 1 year ago
Mike - That is one thing I know for sure...
Sharon - Me too...(((heavy sigh)))
D - Right on girlfriend...
Cynthia
· 1 year ago
I am learning that now at ripe ole 26 ;) A relationship might have to end soon because of my wants. I'm not looking forward to it, though.
Vivrant Thang
· 1 year ago
*waving my MLK church fan* PREACH SISTA MARVALUS!
I just turned 31 and I'm just getting to the point where I'm realizing that these substitute lovers ain't quite getting it anymore. I have my days where I wonder if he'll show up. But meantime I'm working on knowing what to do and how to act when he gets here! How to appreciate him (for what he has and even what he may not have) and make sure he appreciates me in the same way.
It's troubling when women say they NEED a man in their life. No. I NEED water and air to live. Do I want one...a GOOD one. No doubt.
People can say what they want about Steve Harvey but he talks some sense and from what I can tell he's dead on about the way men think and why they do the things they do.
Lina M
· 1 year ago
"Good things come to those who wait." As we get older we also get wiser (hopefully). I am single by choice and I may be alone but definitely far from lonely. There are women and men who are in relationships because they are afraid of being alone. It is much worse for someone to be in a relationship but still feel like they are alone. It's beautiful when you are in a healthy, loving relationship with ups and downs (lawd knows no relationship is perfect) but you shouldn't feel like your world is ending because your single. Physical attraction, as well as, intellectual attraction can be rewarding with the right person. We all can use some love but you shouldn't settle for bullsh*t just to have someone on the otherside of the bed.
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However, I want what I want. And I won't be happy if I settle for anything less. I guess it is better to wait for the one then to stay with anyone only to end up unhappy or back in the single life at 50.
Sighing
Sharon - Me too...(((heavy sigh)))
D - Right on girlfriend...
A relationship might have to end soon because of my wants. I'm not looking forward to it, though.
I just turned 31 and I'm just getting to the point where I'm realizing that these substitute lovers ain't quite getting it anymore. I have my days where I wonder if he'll show up. But meantime I'm working on knowing what to do and how to act when he gets here! How to appreciate him (for what he has and even what he may not have) and make sure he appreciates me in the same way.
It's troubling when women say they NEED a man in their life. No. I NEED water and air to live. Do I want one...a GOOD one. No doubt.
People can say what they want about Steve Harvey but he talks some sense and from what I can tell he's dead on about the way men think and why they do the things they do.
As we get older we also get wiser (hopefully). I am single by choice and I may be alone but definitely far from lonely.
There are women and men who are in relationships because they are afraid of being alone. It is much worse for someone to be in a relationship but still feel like they are alone. It's beautiful when you are in a healthy, loving relationship with ups and downs (lawd knows no relationship is perfect) but you shouldn't feel like your world is ending because your single. Physical attraction, as well as, intellectual attraction can be rewarding with the right person. We all can use some love but you shouldn't settle for bullsh*t just to have someone on the otherside of the bed.